How guys think

Wouldn't girls like to know.
After writing last week's blog about modesty, I thought about another aspect that I will never completely understand: how guys think. When I was a teenager, my mom and I shopped at a thrift store and found a beautiful blue dress with a long skirt and separate fitted sleeveless shirt. It fit me just right and I felt beautiful, attractive. I put it on to wear to school, anticipating all the compliments I'd get. At breakfast my dad said, "Docena, go put on something else. That sleeveless dress is not appropriate." When I questioned him, he said, "You don't know how boys think." This was a line he used a lot with me from then on. And it bothered me, really bothered me. He seemed to be saying that all boys only think about sex and girls' bodies. I had guy-friends. I had boyfriend throughout high school. I couldn't believe, didn't want to believe that they were thinking about me as an object. I thought my dad was too harsh.
Now that I'm married, I still don't know how guys think, but I have a better idea. I know that all of the boys/guys I dated, my husband was the only one who respected me enough to be slow and careful about our physical relationship while we were dating. I know that guys respond more to visual attractiveness than girls. I know that girls want to be loved, not just lusted over. Girls want a lasting, forever relationship. Lasting, forever relationships have much more to do with respect, values, and trust than physical attraction. And I know that when you save that physical relationship for marriage, you are more likely to respect, trust, and be committed to one another. Modesty or dressing so that others see all of you and not just your physical assets, will win you someone that you'll want to be with forever.
Girls, you may not know how guys think, but you can help them think about you as a person and not an object by saving the sight of your physical assets until marriage. Guys, complement girls on their beauty as they dress appropriately and continue to keep your eyes in the right place and your mind clean. And dads, you are the greatest influence on teaching your girls about modesty. Because you know how guys think.